it was pretty weird/surreal to be checking out dailycandy deals last night only see me and dev buying coffee from our new local favorite – proof bakery. i posted the screenshot on facebook and in response a friend sent me this hilarious video shot at the same coffee shop.
although it’s over-the-top, this video is actually really on-point. there are certain people, especially in our area of LA, who take their coffee drinking/making VERY seriously. and although i too love a good espresso, i’m always a bit bemused by the amount of force and conviction and pure snobbery that people adorn themselves with when talking about, let’s face it, a drink. (albeit an addictive, delicious drink).
when i first told people we were moving to LA i was warned countless times about the superficiality of the city’s inhabitants, and how ‘fake’ everything was, and how no one wants to actually be your friend, they just want to use you for leverage. and although i’m sure this city has its share of all of that, i realized that wherever you go in this world you can be 1. selective in who you give your time/energy to, and 2. you can choose to look for the good and disregard the bad.
i was a bit hurt the other day when someone told me point blank to my face that they would NEVER have kids in LA. and there i am, 6 months along, obviously having a child here in this city. and then i had to step back and think about my own prejudices and assumptions about certain places and i felt sorry for this person. sorry that they haven’t yet found their ‘tribe’, sorry that they couldn’t see all the gifts this city offers, and sorry they were so disappointed with their current home. i think the it all boils down to this fantastic quote i read somewhere that is so simple, but so true: “be the kind of person you would want to meet”. i think that if we all try to be that person, then we will effortlessly come into contact with people who we connect with and who bring us joy – and at that intersection, true friendships are born. regardless of what city or village we’re in.