incredible embroidery photo found here
“she’s fantastic… i think you’d like her.”
this message surprised me as all i’ve heard about this ‘she’ is less than favorable. descriptions that included words like insincere and difficult. spoiled and superficial. nothing redeeming. certainly nothing positive.
and suddenly i felt ill. like i’d been fed decayed strawberries my whole life only to find out that whoa, fresh strawberries are awesome. they’re juicy. and red. and sweet. and delicious.
and it was a great reminder that all too often, we humans do this. we poison each others perceptions with our own negative thoughts/misgivings/experiences/envy. and it’s not fair. and it’s not just. and it’s definitely not conducive to making this world a nicer place to be inhabiting.
so i want to caution any and all who enter my sphere that i don’t want to hear about others shortcomings/faults/vices. and unless you or i am in danger of direct harm, i don’t want to know how person X failed you. or listen as you pick apart their character. it’s not fair to them. or to me. and it’s toxic for you too.
our words are powerful. they are tools that build relationships and forge connections. let’s use them for that.